⚠️ DIGNIIN - Maqaalkani wuxuu ka hadlayaa rabshadaha guriga, xadgudubka, naxdinta (trauma), iyo tirokoobyada dilka. Fadlan mudnaanta sii ladnaantaada maskaxeed oo si taxadar leh u akhri.
Rabshadaha gurigu waa duufaan aamusan oo nolosha ku dhex burburisa albaabbada xidhan. Waxay saameeyaan bulsho kasta iyo dad kasta oo asalkoodu kala duwan yahay, iyagoo ka tagaya nabaro shucuur oo qoto dheer. Haweenka iyo carruurta Muslimiinta ah ee Kanada, waxaa arrintan uga sii daraya cabsida, xishoodka, iyo go'doonka.
Halkan Nisa Foundation, waxaan aaminsannahay in aqoontu ay keento xorriyad. Mar kasta oo aan si fiican u fahamno runta, waxaynu u awoodnaa inaynu si ka wanaagsan u ilaalino una xoojino dadka ka badbaaday xadgudubka. Aynu burburinno qaar ka mid ah khuraafaadka caanka ah ee ku saabsan rabshadaha guriga — iyo runta xoreynaysa dadka.
Runta: Xadgudubku marnaba ma ahan wax la aqbali karo — waa dambi, waana dembi diini ah. Ma jirto diin ama dhaqan oggolaanaya rabshada, dulmiga, ama waxyeellada.
Dad badan oo ka badbaaday xadgudubka ayaa loo sheegaa inay "qoyska dhexdiisa ku qariyaan" si loo ilaaliyo sharafta ama magaca. Laakiin aamusnaantu waxay u oggolaanaysaa uun rabshadu inay sii socoto. Ma jirto diin, oo uu ku jiro Islaamku, oo oggolaata waxyeellada, dulmiga, ama naxariis darrada.
Sharciga Kanada wuxuu ilaaliyaa qof kasta, iyadoo aan loo eegin asalkiisa. Raadinta caawimada — hadday tahay booliska, hoyga, ama adeegyada sida Nisa Foundation — ma ahan khiyaano; waa fal geesinnimo ah. Doorashada badbaadadu marnaba ma ahan wax laga xishoodo — waa tallaabada koowaad ee xagga xorriyadda.
Haddii aad adiga ama qof aad garanayso aad ku jirtaan khatar ama aad u baahan tihiin taageero, fadlan nala soo xidhiidha. Nisa Foundation waxay bixisaa caawimo ammaan ah oo u nugul dhaqanka iyo ruuxiga haweenka iyo carruurta Muslimiinta ah ee Kanada. Codso halkan: nisafoundation.ca/apply — keligaa ma ihi, caawimaduna waa diyaar.
Runta: Xadgudubku kaliya maaha waxyeello jidheed (physical) — waa ku saabsan yahay xakamaynta, cabsida, iyo awoodda.
Xadgudubyada qaar waligood gacan ma qaadaan, haddana waxay ka tagaan nabaro shucuur oo qoto dheer iyagoo u maraya habab kale oo is-daba-marin ah:
Noocyadan xakamayntu waxay dabin u dhigaan dhibbanayaasha si la mid ah rabshadaha jidhka — iyagoon ka tagin wax nabaro ah, laakiin burburinaya kalsoonida, xorriyadda, iyo rajada.
Runta: Rabshadu mar kasta waa doorasho uu sameeyo qofka xadgudubka geysanaya. Ma jiro qof "u badheedha" ama mudan in la dhibateeyo.
Dadka xadgudubka geysta waxay inta badan eedda dusha u saaraan diiqada (stress), cadhada, ama xataa dhaqanka lammaanahooda—laakiin kuwani waa cudur-daar, ee ma aha sababo sharci ah. Ma jirto ficil, hadal, ama khaladaad abid caddayn u noqon kara rabshada. Sida diimaha kaleba, Islaamku wuxuu si cad u diidaa dhammaan noocyada waxyeellada ama dulmiga. Marka qofka xadgudubka geysanaya uu qalloociyo rumaystada diimeed ama dhaqan si uu u qiil u helo rabshada, taasi ma aha iimaan—waa is-daba-marin. Nabigu SAW wuxuu yidhi: “Kan idiinku khayrka badan waa kan ugu khayrka badan ehelkiisa.” [Tirmidhi iyo Ibn Majah]
Runta: Rabshadaha gurigu waxay u jiraan si ka badan inta aan u malaynayno — waxay ku dhex jiraan xaafadaheena, goobaha shaqada, iyo masaajidada.
Lixdii maalmoodba mar gudaha Kanada, haweenay ayaa waxaa dila lammaanaheeda. Sannadkii 2023 oo keliya, boolisku waxay soo sheegeen qiyaastii 350 dhibbane oo rabshadaha qoyska ah 100-kii kun ee qofba — waana kiisaska aan ognahay oo keliya. Khubaradu waxay qiyaasayaan in ilaa 70% xadgudubyada aan marnaba la soo sheegin. Taas macnaheedu waa kumanaan haween ah ayaa maalin kasta si aamusnaan ah ugu dhibaataysan — albaabbada ka dambeeya oo u eg kuwa aan annagu leennahay. (Canadian Women’s Foundation, 2023)
Marka ay timaaddo haweenka Muslimiinta ah iyo kuwa soo galootiga ah, tiradu way ka sii badnaan kartaa. Qaar badan ayaa u aamusnaada cabsi darteed — cabsi laga qabo in dalka laga saaro, luminta sharafta qoyska, ama in iyaga la eedeeyo halkii la rumaysan lahaa. Laakiin aamusnaantu kama dhigto xadgudubka mid aan jirin; waxay ka dhigtaa uun mid khatar badan.
Qaar badan oo ka mid ah macaamiisheena Nisa Foundation waxay noo sheegeen inay u aamusnaayeen cabsi ay ka qabaan xukunka dadka, diidmada, ama luminta sharcigooda Kanada. Geesinnimadooda ay markii dambe caawimo ku raadsadeen waxay na xasuusinaysaa in goobaha ammaanka ah iyo fahamka leh aanay nolosha uun beddelin — ee ay badbaadiyaan.
Xaqiiqda: In laga tago qofka xadgudubka geysanaya waa mid ka mid ah tillaabooyinka ugu adag uguna khatarta badan ee dhibbanuhu qaadi karo. Haween badan uma joogaan inay rabaan, laakiin waxay u joogaan inay badbaadaan. Waxay ka baqayaan inay waayaan carruurtooda, inay noqdaan hoy-la’aan, ama xataa in la dilo haddii ay isku dayaan inay baxsadaan.
Xusuus: 75% ka mid ah dilalka la xiriira xadgudubka qoyska waxay dhacaan ka dib markii lagu dhawaaqo kala tagga ama marka la isku dayo in laga tago ninka. (Canadian Women’s Foundation, 2023)
Xaqiiqda: Xadgudubku wuxuu ka dambeeyaa albaab kasta—hadday tahay qof qani ah ama faqiir, mid aqoon leh ama aan lahayn. Lacagtu ma joojiso xadgudubka; waxay kaliya ka dhigtaa mid sahlan in la qariyo. Waxaan aragnaa haween leh shahaadooyin jaamacadeed iyo shaqooyin guul leh oo haddana ku nool cabsi joogto ah.
Xaqiiqda: Dadka ka badbaada xadgudubka inta badan waa dad aad u adag. Waxay ku nool yihiin cabsi iyo cadaadis joogto ah iyagoo isku dayaya inay ilaaliyaan naftooda iyo carruurtooda. Mararka qaarkood, in la joogo waa habka kaliya ee lagu badbaadi karo ilaa laga helayo fursad badbaado leh oo looga baxo.
Xaqiiqda: Xadgudubku maaha mid ku saabsan caro—waa mid ku saabsan xukun iyo maamul. Dadka xadgudubka geysta badankood waxay u xakameeyaan dhaqankooda si aad u wanaagsan; ma weeraraan maamulahooda shaqada ama deriskooda, waxay kaliya u gaystaan lamaanahooda. Tani waxay muujinaysaa in xadgudubku yahay doorasho, ee uusan ahayn "caro laga bixi waayay."
Xaqiiqda: Carruurtu wax kasta way arkaan, waana dareemaan. Xataa haddii aysan si toos ah u arkin falka xadgudubka ah, waxay dhuuxaan cabsida iyo xiisadda guriga ka jirta.
Xaqiiqda: Khamriga ama daroogadu ma sababaan xadgudubka—waxay ka dhigi karaan mid ka sii daran, laakiin maaha sababta rasmiga ah. Dad badan ayaa isticmaala maandooriye iyagoon noqon rabshad-wadayaal. Haddii uusan qofka xadgudubka geysta qaadan mas'uuliyadda falkiisa, daaweynta maandooriyaha oo kaliya ma joojinayso rabshadda.
Xaqiiqda: Dadka xadgudubka geysta waxay inta badan ku xeel dheer yihiin qashinta iyo qarinta dhaqankooda. Waxay u muuqan karaan dad naxariis badan, asluub leh, ama deeqsi ah marka ay fagaaraha joogaan, halka ay guriga gudihiisa ku yihiin dad xun oo dadka xukuma.
Xaqiiqda: Raalligelinta iyo hadiyadaha inta badan waa qayb ka mid ah "wareegga xadgudubka" (cycle of abuse). Rabshadda ka dib, ninka xadgudubka geysta wuu oyi karaa, wuu raalligelin karaa, ama wuxuu ballanqaadi karaa inuu isbeddelayo—laakiin haddii uusan jirin isbeddel dhab ah iyo xisaabtan, hab-dhaqankii hore waa soo laabanayaa.
Ma jeclaan lahayd inaan kugu caawiyo sidii aad nuxurkan ugu diyaarin lahayd qaab qoraal kooban (social media post) ama warqad wacyigelin ah?
1. Xiisad dhismo — doodaha yaryar, cabsida, ama xakamaynta ayaa bilaaba inay kor u kacaan.
2. Qarax — qofka xadgudubka geysta ayaa ku kaca gacan-ka-hadal, dhibaatayn shucuureed, ama mid hadal ah.
3. Raalligelin — qofka xadgudubka geysta ayaa raalligelin bixiya, hadiyado bixiya, ama u dhaqma si kalgacal leh si uu markale xukunka u hantiyo.
Ka dib, meertadu waxay bilaabataa mar kale. Raalligelintan ku-meel-gaarka ah waxay abuurtaa rajo been ah, waxayna ku adkaystaa dadka ka badbaaday xadgudubka inay ka tagaan xiriirka. Isbeddelka dhabta ahi wuxuu u baahan yahay mas'uuliyad qaadasho, la-talin khubaro ah, iyo wakhti — ee uma baahna ubaxyo ama ballanqaadyo.
Xaqiiqada: La-talintu waxay shaqaysaa oo kaliya marka ay jirto nabadgelyo iyo sinnaan. Xiriirka rabshadaha leh, la-talinta wadajirka ah waxay noqon kartaa mid halis ah. Waxay siin kartaa qofka xadgudubka geysanaya agab cusub oo uu ku sii xumeeyo maskaxda dhibbanaha. Dadka ka badbaaday xadgudubka waxay u baahan yihiin nabadgelyo iyo taageero gaar ah marka hore, ee uma baahna fadhi ay la wadaagaan qofka cabsida iyo xukunka ku haya.
Xaqiiqada: Qaar badan oo ka badbaaday xadgudubka waxay wajahayaan dhibaatayn joogto ah ka dib markay kala tagaan. Dadka xadgudubka geysta waxay isticmaali karaan daba-gal, dhibaatayn, ama waxay u adeegsan karaan carruurta iyo cadaadiska bulshada si ay u sii xukumaan qofka. Xadgudubka kala-tagga ka dib waa mid caadi ah oo khatar ah — waana sababta ay qorshaynta nabadgelyadu muhiim u tahay xataa marka laga tago xiriirka.
Xaqiiqada: Aamusnaantu waxay ogolaataa in xadgudubku sii socdo — waxayna baraysaa carruurta in rabshaddu tahay wax iska caadi ah. Ka warbixintu maaha kala firdhinta qoyska; ee waa badbaadinta jiilalka mustaqbalka. Haddii laga aamuso, waxay kordhisaa suurtagalnimada in carruurtu ay la kulmaan ama geystaan rabshad marka ay weynaadaan. 60% carruurta ku kora guryaha rabshadaha leh waxay dib ula kulmaan ama u markhaati furaan rabshad mar kale. (Journal of Family Psychology, 2022)
Xaqiiqada: Aamusnaantu waxay difaacdaa dadka xadgudubka geysta. Inaad hadasho waxay badbaadin kartaa nolosha dadka. Markaynu iska indho-tirno xadgudubka, waxaynu ilaalinaynaa qofka dhibka geysanaya — ee maaha dhibbanaha. Dad badan oo ka badbaaday xadgudubka waxay sheegeen in waxa ugu xanuunka badnaa uusan ahayn falka rabshadda ah, balse ay ahayd sida dadkii ku xeeraa ay u aamuseen ama u caawin waayeen. Codkaaga, walaacaaga, ama xataa fal yar oo taageero ah ayaa isbeddel weyn samayn kara.
Ma gashid inaad khabiir noqoto si aad wax u caawiso. Iska warayso qofka, dhegayso, ama la wadaag ilaha caawinta sida Nisa Foundation. Haddii aadan aqoon meel aad ka bilowdo, hageheena dadka isbahaysiga ah (Guide for Allies) ayaa kaa caawin kara inaad garato calaamadaha digniinta iyo sida loo taageero qof si ammaan ah oo naxariis leh.
Xasuusnow: Inaad dhex gasho oo aad garab istaagto dhibbanaha waxay kordhisaa nabadgelyada dadka ka badbaaday xadgudubka ilaa 50%. (SafeLives, 2023)
This powerful teaching reminds us that doing nothing is never an option. Being an ally — offering help, listening, or guiding someone to safety — is an act of faith, compassion, and courage.
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